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Passion, Vision and Mission – Revisited

So if you caught the first of my video-posts below you may well have been reflecting on your own PASSIONS and VISIONS and the MISSIONS that result from them…

Remember that it is the BEHAVIOUR that results from your internal drives (motives) which produce or limit success. Your behaviours are measurable, observable and outward expressions of what your conscious or subconscious priorities.

Well ahead of my next video-posts have a look at this…..

 

 

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What’s Stopping You?

So here’s the deal…

You have a dream, an ambition a goal. In fact you have had dreams, ambitions and goals before BUT you’ve never really had the success you wanted.

So what went wrong?

Well the first thing to really think about is how YOU might be hijacking your own success.

Think what could be getting in your way?

May I offer some questions for you to consider..

Do you REALLY want what you dream you are dream?

We all have dreams, ambitions, desires and hopes but the reality of the things we wish for may be somewhat removed from the ideal which we imagine.

Dreams of wealth and fame are one thing, but the reality of those things may be something different.  Unless you ask the question WHAT WOULD BE DIFFERENT when I have achieved my goal and honestly reflect upon the ‘pros’ and ‘cons’ there is a possibility that the “unconscious self” will sabotage ‘conscious action’ so leading to frustration.

Have you REALLY planned for it?

This is more than just having a destination. It is about having a map of the journey.

This map needs to highlight the way-points, the pit-stops and the comfort breaks.

Recognise that goals change and dreams can evolve and that the journey itself is important.

Have you OPENLY STATED what you want?

Committing to a particular course of action, to a specific journey, in your own mind is one thing. Writing it down, promoting it and telling other people is something else. I will leave you to decide which is the more valuable in supporting you on your journey.

Have you PREPARED for SUCCESS

Preparing for success is about creating a vision of the ‘future you’ that is so complete that you can start to anticipate how other things that will change around you – that includes not only your behaviour but also the reactions and behaviours of others. Speak to any own who has won a large amount on a lottery and you will understand how this works.

Are you VALUES and ATTITUDES in line with your dream?

So you may desire something; you may dream about it and you may well start working towards it. If your internal values, personal attitudes and emotional compass are not in-line with what you are ‘becoming’ or ‘will become’ then you are on a path that will not bring happiness. If you have to sacrifice what you feel makes you in order to achieve a stated goal you are setting up stressful internal conflicts that may be difficult to resolve or reconcile.

Are you FRIGHTENED about living your dream?

In other words does success scare you?

This fear may come beliefs you have about your worthiness to succeed or from the thought that you will be moving away from what you know, what you are comfortable with.

It may sound obvious and a little ‘trite’ but CHANGE is the only CONSTANT in the universe.

Change brings with it uncertainty and doubt. It often requires you to step away from the comfort zone of what you know and who you know. There are many people who prefer to stay trapped within their comfort zone when faced with major, personal, life changing choices.

Thinking about these questions forces you to decide if what you dream is really your dream and helps better prepare you for total commitment to your future success.

Alan

Stepping Back from Your Dreams

So you’ve written your targets and you’ve made the personal commitment to ‘go for it’ but after several weeks nothing seems to have changed.

What’s going on?

I mean you’ve read “The Secret” and you’ve placed your “cosmic order” and still your life ain’t changed much – it should have just happened shouldn’t it!

Well the truth is all of the positive thinking in the world just won’t make it happen…. All dreams need emotional glue and practical commitment.

The emotional glue is the deep desire for all aspects of the change you are trying to make. At some level your mind will have considered the pros and the cons of achieving your dreams – it may just not have told you all of the things it has considered. Of course we are talking about unconscious processes here so whilst you may think you want a specific outcome, your unconscious mind may have reservations.

Consider the downside of your dreams and ambitions so that you have forced yourself to review your goal completely.

The practical commitment is about having clear steps, processes and pathways towers your goal. Often it is better to set you goal or dream in clear terms then to work backward from the future to the present.

You can ask the question “what will I have to have achieved immediately prior to this?”

Thinking about things in this way can help you not only review your goals consider the effect achieving them will have on you, but also create small, practical steps that lead you to your desired future. It is much easier to commit emotionally to small steps that you have identified as being an integral part of your future.

Dreams and Goals

So here’s the thing you want to be somewhere other than you are….

You have an ambition, a goal a dream.

Are you planning for it I wonder?

More importantly I guess is ‘how clear to you is that dream?’

At some workshop sessions in the last week I was interested in the number of people who wanted to make a change but who had not really thought about what it was they wanted.

A typical conversation went something like this….

Person “i am not happy with my life”

Me “So what are you doing about that.”

Person “Well I”m waiting for things to change……”

Me “So what do you really want for yourself……..”

Person “I don”t really know, just something ……. Well to make me happy”

Me “So what makes you happy…..”

Person “oh, lots of things…..”

And so this pointless conversation went on and on.

It’s very easy to talk about wanting change in terms of unspecified, generalized feelings of happiness, comfort, being loved, feeling less pressure….. It’s also not necessarily going to move you in the direction of obtaining those things.

More importantly waiting for “things to change” is not taking control of your own life. Waiting for things to happen is disowning your personal power and responsibility. At worst this means you make it someone else”s fault if things do not change the way you want them to.

The first thing to recognise is that change is the only constant in the universe. Things never stay the same. If you are not able to see those changes, respond to them and engage with them you will forever be the “victim” or “passive participant” in your own life.

Take control now!

Make some careful decisions about what you want in your life.

Being ‘happy’ is a transient emotional state.

Identify the things that make you happy – be specific.

Being ‘comfortable’ – what do you mean by that? Money? Clothes? Furnishings? Health?

It is perhaps true that all the generalizations we ‘wish for’ are simply personal cop-outs which do little more than remind us that we”re not being who we want to be.

Our futures have to be built around us and the things we can do to bring them about. If we rely on other people and situations to make the changes we are being passengers in our own lives.

One of the most irritating things about this “cosmic ordering” thing as promoted in that rather dubious book “The Secret” is the way that adherents to the system seem to want to hand everything over to the universe knowing that the universe will provide – and if it doesn’t, well, it’s because ……

Your soul purpose was not in line with your desires ….

Or some other pseudo-spiritual guff!

I really wish some of these so called New Age gurus would listen to what they are saying and implying sometimes.

The formula for manifesting change in your own life can be reduced to a simple set of questions…

What do you want specifically?

Create a very clear statement of what you want – what would you see, hear, feel and think were you in that future?

How will you know when you have achieved that?

Make statements about all the things that will be different when you have achieved that dream

Where are you now in relation to where you to be?

Do a reality check to explore your current reality and compare it to what you want. What is missing? How is it different?

What are you doing now to move towards your dream?

Simple, be honest with yourself.

Achieving your goals is about putting the behaviours in place to make the required changes. Simply saying the time isn”t right abdicates all personal responsibility. Even a small change in behaviours that is in line with your dream is something.

Speaking to young people about their ambitions is fascinating. The number of them who tell me that they “want to be famous” is direct result of the “cult of celebrity” invented by the numerous “reality TV” shows that we see.

When asked what they want to be famous for, what skill or talent or ability they want to be recognized the majority do not have any idea!

Now whilst the desire to be famous isn”t perhaps the most carefully thought out ambitions the fact that there is a feeling that “they” will be “discovered” for the uniqueness of their personality (or some fame-worthy attribute) is not taking any responsibility for “their” life and life choices.

Do something – anything that moves you towards your goal and is in line with your values.

Of course the “doing” of something which moves you toward a goal or dream does presuppose that you know what that goal or dream is.

Alan

How to effect personal change..

I was recently asked this question on a ‘help forum’…

“Apart from Affirmations, please give me a good spiriitual method I can use (which has immediate effect) to attract things into my life. Thanks”

I thought my answer would be of interest to readers of this blog…

From my perspective there is no ‘magic’ to be found in the rather superficial promises of books like the Secret and Cosmic Ordering. What his there, hidden beneath layers of over generalised and sometimes vacuous New Age babble is some very sound psychology which, in effect, relates to everything I understand about the inner workings of “real magic”.

It was Goethe, the poet and playwright, who said that once the mind is set on a clear course of action the universe conspires to make it happen.

There is more than a grain of truth in this.

“Attention flows where emotion Goes” is something I say to many of my students on the Transforming Minds workshops and this is really the case.

If you have an emotional link to something, anything, that is where your attention will flow. If you direct your attention towards a specific thing then it is very likely that your unconscious mind will start to process information and ideas about it.

I am sure everyone has had the experience of buying a new (to them) car. Almost as soon as the car is purchased you start ‘noticing’ more cars of the same type and colour on the road! This is not because the universe is trying to wind-you-up, it is because your unconscious mind starts noticing things that are important to you.

The same thing happens when you ‘want’ or ‘need’ a new household appliance, suddenly you start to see ‘adverts’ and ‘notices’ for these things. It’s not that these notices and ‘ads’ have juts appeared, it is because you now notice them!

Now, back to attracting things into your life.

Thinking about what you are missing, or what you don’t want, is actually self-defeating. It remonds you of the problem, or the negative situation. In some ways you are consciously asking the unconscious mind to remind you of and find more things, that are depressing you!

Shifting your emotional focus to what you want and creatively visualising ‘how’ your life ‘will’ be different ‘when’ these changes have been made is, in essence what The Secret et al promote, but without the psuedo-spiritual baggage.

The idea of anything having an immediate effect is also a little ‘one dimensional’ in its assumption. Every moment we are alive we experience the world. How we respond to those experiences depends largely upon our internal attitudes, values, beliefs and emotional ‘states’.

Every action in the ‘now’ moves you along towards your ‘future’ – so in essence you are always making choices about tomorrow.

Since most of the day-to-day processing we undertake as people is unconscious then we rarely, if ever, take the time and the effort to make conscious choices. Our unconscious mind presents ‘options’ which we consciously weigh-up as our the only choices (or the dilemma). Our uncosncious mind uses our deep seated attitude-value-belief system to pre-process every option open to us and hence creates limited behavioural responses to our awareness.

To change your perspective you have to work on changing your mind!

So much of this is beyond the scope of the quick answer I think you wanted, so in summary, here’s a set of ideas which come from the Mind Alignment – Transformational Reading – Transforming Minds programme (Google it if you’re interested).

Have a VERY SPECIFC outcome in mind.

What do you want to attract into your life?

Visualise how your life will be differen WHEN you have attracted these things.

Create a compelling mind-movie of the future you want, with sound effects, big colourful pictures and positive, motivational dialogues.

Ask yourself if your REALLY want this future.

So many people ‘wish’ for a thing without running it through their value-attitude ‘filters’. This means that the ‘idea’ sounds good in some distant, abstract sense, but actually is not a good fit with who you really are and really want to be. Hence you start sabbotaging your own efforts to move towards the illusion you think you want.

Ask yourself to WRITE down a list of CLEAR ACTIONS you can take to move you towards your future.

Change your behaviour to match the kind if behaviours that you saw yourself engaging in in your movie. Start to walk your dream by acting ‘as if’ you had already achieved it. In essence you are ‘trying on’ the future skin you will be wearing to ensure it fits comfortably.

Keep your GOAL in mind.

This means you underplay anything which reminds you that you are a long way from what you want and celebrate eevery single thing that takes you closer.

Now if you are still reading this, I congratulate you since I have avoided giving you the specific answer you wanted.

You asked for a ‘good spiritual method’ and I have focused on some psychological aspects of making changes in your life.

I think you cannot divorce the spirtual from the practical; the rational from the mystical (hence I call myself a Rational Mystic). All magicians (and yes I do mean that in the spiritual-mystical sense) recognise the importance of ‘right thought and right action’ and creating a link between the inner-focus of ‘mind’ (the intention behind the magic) and the outer focus of ‘behaviour’ (the rituals, spell casting, visualisation techniques used).

In recent years the New Age movement has spawned some very single minded ideas about ‘magic’ and promoted the quaint and infantile notion that ‘spells can be cast’ to ‘make things happen’. Hence all personal responsibility for change is abdicated to the tides of some kind of spiritual wish-master whose sole aim is to respond to the buring of candles; the half-hearted visulisations of those seeking a quick-fix to a complex problem; the ‘orders’ of groups of people who seemed to suggest that the Cosmos bends to their whim.

The late Alex Saunders, one of the key people in the revival of the Witchcaft Tradition in the UK, said to me once…

“Casting spells and using magic is hard work, its nearly always easier to go out and do something practical to move you towards your goal.”

He said this in response to the notion that folks could ‘cast spells’ to bring ‘love’, or ‘money’ or ‘fortune’.

Of course the process of performing a magical ritual does have an effect IF that ritual is prepared correctly – that means on both a mundane and spiritual level.

To ‘cast a spell’ to bring ‘love’ and then sit at home waiting for it to work is nonesense. Of course use the ‘spell’, but use it as a motivator to change what you do, where you go, who you meet so that ‘love’ has a chance to find you.

As Alex said to me, and I am paraphrasing…

Casting a spell to bring money and fortune and then not getting off your backside to find work is a futile exercise.

Magic and Spiritual methods are part and parcel of a process which can bring ‘positive change’ – but you as a living, breathing, thinking, caring, motivated person has to actively engage in that change.

Alan

Analysing Your Dreams

We all dream.

Dreaming is part and parcel of being alive.

Whilst it is true that we don’t always remember our dreams, it is widely accepted that dream-sleep is a normal and essential part of everyones nighly sleep cycles.

Why we dream is not so clear cut. Whilst some claim that dreaming is more about ‘brain dumping’, that is the mind ‘sorting out’ and ‘sifting through’ the events of the day others maintain that dreming is the result of your unconscious communicationg with your conscious mind about repressed fears, anxieties, hopes and even solutions to challenges you are facing in your life.

What is true is that the huan mind, when deprived of sensory stimulation, creates its own sensory input ‘to work on’. SensoryDeprivation experiments in the 1960′s demonstrated out minds ability to create self-generated sensoty illusions.

Whatever the origin of our dreams there is a sense in which ‘dreams contain messages’ which can give us insights into ourselves. The issue is that the stories within dreams may not be all they seem. When the conscious mind attempts ro recall the ideas, images and presentations of the unconscious it may be inadvertantly forcing ‘nnarrative’ and ‘logic’ onto that which is in all likelihood non-linear and chaotic. The unconscious mind, rather like the mystic, speaks in metaphors.

Certainly some dreams seem to have an ‘episodic’ nature and a story-line through them; some dreams are even repeated in a ‘serial’ fashion with each subsequent dream developing the ‘story’ and the narrative ‘arc’, but it is often easier to consider each dream as distinct set of ideas, symbols, images and thoughts.

Many people go straight to their favourite ‘dream interpretation’ book in order to decipher their dreams symbolism. Whilst this can prove to be interesting, and a bit like looking for the ‘interpretation you want’ rather than the  ‘insight you need’, by far the best way of diving  the meaning of your dreams is to consider what it means to you – afterall it is your mind that has created the dream, using for the most part mental and emotional associations you have made. Of course there appear to be some ‘universal’ themes and symbols within dreams and these are worthy of much consideration,but the starting point is within the mind of the dreamer.

So the following list of questions may be useful in starting the process of interpreting your dream. As you consider each question write doown your answers, your immediate thoughts and intuitions. Avoid simply rushing through the list. It is the thinking inspired by the questions that contains many of the answers you seek. If you fee that your dream progressed through different ‘scenes’ in terms of ‘place’, ‘people’ or action treat each scene seperately and as the following questions of each segment of your dream story.

 

1) When you awoke from the dream what were your immediate feelings and emotions?

2) Did you dream in colour or black and white?

2a) What was the main colour (or shade of grey) in the dream?

2b) Where there any other significant colours?

3) Where you ‘in the dream’ (that is looking through your own eyes) or were you a ‘detatched observer’?

3a) If you now imagine changing perspective (from 1st person to 3rd person) on reviewing your dream what do you think and feel?

4) Where was the dream located; which country, town, location, place or space and when in terms of historical period?

4a) What recognisable features, landmarks or objects were in this ‘space’?

5) What people were there? (numbers, who specifically, genders, relationships)

6) What animals or significant other objects were in your dream?

7) What were the key activities in your dream – who was doing what and with what attitude or emotion?

8) Who was speaking in your dream – what were they saying, in what kind of tone/attitude/emotion?

9) Who or what had the ‘power’ in your dream – who or what dominated?

10) What are your feelings and thoughts about the significant parts of your dream now you’ve answered all these questions?

To explore the possible meaning of your dreams you need to start considering each of the key elements; thinking about what each element means to you (your memories and personal associations) and if appropriate what specific symbols ‘mean’ within the context of your culture and interests. If you’re into Tarot cards, for example, are there specific cards that contain similar imagery?

Remember, your unconscious mind will use any and all symbols in its arsenal to communicate to you. If you have understanding of any symbolic system your unscious may use it to #get your attention’. Discrimination is the key factor here – be very careful of taking dream symbols and images too literally.

Colours, numbers, shapes, people (in terms of status – parent, teacher, child, beggar etc) animals, locations can all have personal associations and meanings as well as ‘cultural’ (myths and legends) and ‘mystical’ (religious/spiritual icons, signs and symbols) references.

The fascination is in exploring the richness of our metaphorical inner mind.

Alan